Friday, February 26, 2010
has a plush horse named Floory, and a plush unicorn named Chuckster, both of which she occasionally stuffs into the sofa cushions. Ah, the long lovely days of childhood, and the joyful lack of responsibility for explaining yourself. Why shouldn't a unicorn be stuffed into a sofa cushion? Why not, indeed?
I just finished reading a wonderful book by Alison Lurie about the subversive nature of children's literature. In the book, which is called Don't Tell the Grownups, Lurie notes that the favorite stories of children have characters that are daring and sometimes even naughty. Take for example Peter Rabbit. He broke all the rules and lost his best jacket and nearly got whacked by the farmer...but then he got away and ran home to be scolded/cuddled by his mother and put to bed with only a cup of chamomile tea for his supper. This is the plot line that has captured generations of child readers. No one would want to be Flopsy or Mopsy or Cottontail if they could be Peter instead.
So Bea is out there on the deck bouncing on her bouncy horse today. In no time, she'll want to ride a real pony. Then she'll be like her Aunt Sara: she'll want to ride a real horse. And so it goes. And we love her, and we want her to have everything she might ever want or need.
Lastly, we ourselves--and by that I mean myself and all the rest of Bea's family and friends--must allow Bea time and room to think and to explore and to imagine. We can begin by allowing ourselves those privileges. We all need to test the boundaries of what we can think, do and achieve. A bouncy horse is just the first step, but at least it's a step in the right direction. Hi-ho, Silver, and awaaaaay!
Monday, February 22, 2010
Friendship across a lifetime
On Sunday evening, I came to stay with Bea while her parents went out for dinner. She was in a very giggly mood. I had brought some fresh flowers and we spent quite a bit of time arranging and re-arranging them in a vase. This is a fascinating home-schooling activity, because we practiced sorting, naming, shaping, separating colors, discussing parts of the flower and so on. It was low-key, though, and a lot of fun. Bea is forever ready to learn something new. She loves the variety of things we talk about and do. We had a delicious pasta dish and some apple slices for dinner, followed by a bowl of Trader Joe's (Bea calls it "Traitor Joe's") honey-nut Cheerios, which Bea pronounced to be the "best Cheerios in the whole wide world."
When darkness came, Bea and I began calling for Leda to come into the house. We might as well have saved our breath. Leda is deaf, I'm sure. She might be able to hear a whistle, but she is very much an independent spirit. She wouldn't necessarily feel a need to respond. Where she goes when she wanders off in the woods in her geriatric drifty moods is something to ponder. I hope I don't get like her too soon. And if I do, I hope at least, like Leda, when the lights come on, I can find my way back to the house.
Friday, February 12, 2010
though the river was frozen,
wrapped us in skins to keep us warm,
while others did not survive the winter.
Though the river filled with ice,
someone searched for game or roots;
though some were dying of hunger
someone pounded corn and made bread.
Game cooked in the fire, bread in ashes,
Somehow we survived the winter
Someone saw that we did not die hungry.
By spring the water began to flow freely.
In time we had children of our own
Born when the river gave up its ice
We made them a place by the fire,
Remembering how we ourselves survived.
Day after day, we pounded corn.
We made sure the children had full bellies,
In spring, the river resumed its long ramble.
We bathed the children in its waters.
In summer, we harvested squash and beans
To fill our children’s empty bellies,
The river gave us fish and mussels;
we fed them to the children.